![]() If I focus more on my job than my relationship but the purpose of the job is to enable a healthy relationship then that imbalance is a problem. When you take too much from one side of the scale to add to the other, then there is imbalance and if the sides of the scale are of equal importance or value the goal would be to strike a balance. Life is full of competing priorities, and most decisions about how you use your time and energy involve a trade-off. The idea was more about correct proportions and stability. While your thought process seems sound, I'm not sure I agree that the original intent was to reference balance as it pertains to biomechanics. Does it to you?Īs you read this article, I hope I created enough imbalance in your mind to enable you to see things from a slightly different perspective. Isn't it what our clients are looking for - to evoke a change? How are you going to help them by finding balance? Obviously they have found it already and were not happy with the result! It does not make much sense to me. ![]() What I'm seeking with my clients is a deliberate and carefully crafted imbalance of the system which would enabled him/her to initialize movement in a certain direction. Does it make sense? It is a very simple distinction but it can cause confusion when a professional coach is not aware of it. Linguistically when we say "his (client) life is imbalanced" what we really mean is: there are other points of balance available for the system to have other outcomes which will be evaluated as positive. In my opinion the nature of the problem is that the system is BALANCED at a certain point and that point is the root of the cause (which the client deems as negative). Here we're just mixing together the nature of the problem and linguistics (the way we use language to describe it). ![]() I can hear the critics saying, "What about problems which came to life when people imbalance themselves? They ignore family for the sake of work or abandon relationships or health by focusing too much on other areas?" These examples seem like classical examples of imbalance, right? Well, in my opinion, not exactly. ![]() In my practice I ask my clients: "if you found yourself stuck in certain areas of your life what kind of balance created it? What makes it the way it is at that moment? Where do you need to imbalance yourself and how do you achieve it?" As you may see, my questions are different from the typical questions you were probably taught in your coaching course. We need to keep in mind there are multiple levels of "balance" and we need to be careful when we work with clients regarding finding the balance and draw that well-known "life balance wheel." What kind of balance are we seeking? I hope this article at least trigger some thoughts in this direction. Some of you might argue that in the examples I mentioned there is certain level of balance and I agree. Even the physical process of walking is simply controlled "falling" because in order to take a step we need first to create imbalance. A permanent process of consuming, assimilating and dispersing energy. ![]() It is in a permanent process of "imbalance" and this is the reason we are alive. ![]()
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